The nerve!….This goes out to all the spoonies.
“My name is Emelie Crecco, I’m 20 years old and I have cystic fibrosis. CF affects the lungs (as of many organs in the body) because of this I have a handicapped sticker. I’m not one to “abuse” the sticker, meaning I use it when I’m having a “bad day” (some days its a little harder to breathe). Today was HOT so I needed to use my sticker. I was running errands all day around my town, I pulled into a handicapped spot, placed the sticker in my mirror and continued into the store. Upon returning to my car I found a note written by someone, it said “Shame on you, you are NOT handicapped. You have taken a space that could have been used by an actually handicapped person. You are a selfish young lady.” I was LIVID. How can someone be so ignorant and cowardly? They clearly saw me walk out of my car, why not approach me? Not all handicaps are visible. I would love for you to share this story. It would help spread awareness for CF, but it would help open people’s minds to what handicapped really is.
Thank you for your time”
A friend of mine fell over 20 feet and basically broke half his ribs, punctured his lung, broke his arm in three places that required many surgeries to fix and messed up a nerve in his leg. He had to walk with a cane for a long time after it and some lady in a restaurant thought he was just walking with a cane for the hell of it and she ripped it from his hands and grabbed his messed up arm and shook him and told him he was an awful human being for pretending to be handicapped. What the fuck people?
This is what real ableism looks like.
I have ulcerative colitis, an autoimmune disorder which causes my body to attack my colon, and I qualify for one of those stickers. I’m scared to get one, though, because I look healthy and whole.
A mutual friend of mine’s mother has severe fibromyalgia (that gives her a handicapped pass) and as she was walking to her car after buying her groceries, a man actually lunged at her and started yelling at her about her “not looking handicapped”. It left her mother shaking and crying, of course, and it just makes me so angry how awful and ignorant some people can be.
Not all handicaps are visible
Can I just pin this sentence on every lamppost all over the planet please
I get this all the time with my knee problems if i’m not wearing my supports
Everything about this! My aunt has had many open heart surgeries and it is difficult for her to walk around for too long, especially in the heat. She is unable to do so. There have been people that have gone up to her and scream and “lecture” her. I’ll say it: my aunt is my hero. She is very outspoken and feisty and she does not let things like this get her down. It’s sad because she has basically said that she has had to get “used to it”. No one with a handicap or disability, or what have you, should have to go through this.
last time I caught the National Express, I got to the coach station 40 minutes early so I could get a seat at the front. I have fibromyalgia and anxiety (panic attacks) and it’s an 8 hour journey to my university town, so 1) I need the extra legroom, and 2) I need to be near the front because the further back you sit, the more claustrophobic it gets. Two of the four front seats are marked as disabled priority seats, and being very aware of the ‘invisible’ nature of my disability, I sat in the ”’normal”’ seats in case another disabled passenger needed the marked seats. Next thing I know, the coach driver is standing in front of me saying ‘Oi, you can’t sit there. Those are disabled seats’ so I’m like ‘But they’re not marked…’ and he says, ‘Yes they are, get up, we need to save those seats for actual disabled passengers’ so I finally said ‘but I am disabled’ and he just looks at me and ‘Another passenger needs those seats’ and by this time the coach is pretty full. So I found my way to a seat further back (and at this point I’m trying really hard not to cry) and then after a few minutes, I see the bus driver hugging and shaking hands with a couple of people outside the coach and the three of them get on and he’s like ‘I saved you the front seats!’
TL;DR - I was forced out of non-disabled seats for not being disabled (when I am) so the coach driver’s friends could ride shotgun and spent the rest of the 8 hour journey anxious, cramped, and on the verge of tears
(never travelling with National Express again)
I have Lupus;i don’t look sick; i don’t work because of my condition; i have a card that proves i am disabled. You can never know what other people go through in their lives. So be nice and give people the benefit of doubt and the privacy to not have to explain their disability. Nobody is proud of being sick.